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The Rules of Sexuality
“We must understand that sexuality encompasses more than sexual behavior … sexuality is a core component of personality. Sexuality is a fundamental part of human life.” –
SURGEON GENERAL’S - CALL TO ACTION TO PROMOTE SEXUAL HEALTH AND RESPONSIBLE SEXUAL BEHAVIOR 2001.
Understanding Human Sexuality
As much as most people dislike rules, we can all agree that rules make our lives a bit easier. It’s helpful to know what we are and are not allowed to do before we make fools of ourselves by doing something that is morally or legally prohibited. As that is the case, we tend to place rules – either spoken or unspoken – on all aspects of life. We know that it is wrong to disobey our parents. We know that it is wrong to be insubordinate towards our teachers. We know that if we try to go grocery shopping with no shirt or shoes, we will not receive service. And we know that when it comes to sexuality, there are far more rules than we can count.
So the question is how can we all expect to live by the same rules and regulations when we talk about something that is both physical as it is emotional?
The answer is that we can’t. Human sexuality is neither just an act nor just a feeling. Sex and sexuality combines all of our physical and emotional senses. When we have sex, we let our imaginations guide us as much as our realities. Sex is a time in which we engage all of our senses; the sights, smells, tastes, and sounds are as important as the feeling of the human touch. In the world of human sexuality, every element is crucial.
So why is it that so many people still try to elude themselves into thinking that sex and sexuality is somehow wrong?
Societies take on your Personal Sexuality
Everyday we watch movies with steamy love scenes. We read romance novels and sigh as the main characters culminate their feelings in a sexual scene. We listen to songs that describe sexual acts step by step. We even look at advertisements that ooze super pixels of human sexuality from every dot per inch of glorious persuasion. But when it comes to discussing our own lives, sex and sexuality is just as taboo now as it was in Puritan times.
The problem with the way that society views personal human sexuality is that societal persecution represses individual sexual beings along with their partners. Sex comes naturally; great sex does not. To truly enjoy sex, understanding what we’re dealing with – and the only way that we can do that is to educate ourselves and make sure that we understand human sexuality..
Fun Facts
In some countries such as Europe "age-appropriate" sex education starts in pre-school, whereas other countries like the United States teaches sex education to the pre-teenage and teenage years…
Did you know?
Research done in the psychology of human sexuality was developed by Sigmund Freud in which he developed on the concepts of erogenous zones, psychosexual development, and the Oedipus complex, etc...
Sexual Health goes beyond Sex Ed. Class
Unfortunately, most people only experience sexual education while they sit through middle school and snicker behind the teacher’s back. They learn the basics of male and female anatomy along with what sex actually is. But when it comes to everything else – sensuality, intimacy – they just try to wing it. And while there are many things in life that we can just wing, sex is not really one of them.
That is why it is important for us to learn about human sexuality now, no matter what our ages may be. Whether you are in your 20s, your 30s, or even your 60s, it’s never too late to learn about this mysterious craving that every person experiences. More importantly, there is no reason why we should be too shy or ashamed or embarrassed to take our sexual knowledge to the next level. Sex is meant to inspire creativity, to enhance relationships, and to improve intimacy. So the more we know, the better off we will all be.
Desires, Fetishes and Fantasies and your Sexuality
Human Sexuality is something that affects everyone differently. Some men are attracted to men while others are attracted to women. Some women are attracted to danger while others are attracted to sensitivity. Then there are even some people who are attracted to very basic things like feet, leather, or general human contract. No matter what the case may be, the point is that we all can – and should – learn from one another and share our sexual knowledge.
Sex & Sexuality: The more you KNOW the more you Grow
It is imperative for us to understand that knowledge is power and that the more we know, the more we grow. That is why we have college, cooking classes, pottery classes, and computer courses. We naturally want to learn and we have more than enough resources to do so.
Sadly, there is still a stigma behind human sexuality that makes people back away from that topic. We can barely speak to our friends about sex, let alone talk about it with the general public. While we try to view our confidentiality as a sign of respect, we are really demonstrating a sign of repression. Human sexuality affects everyone, yet we act as if it doesn’t exist – even while it is blatantly displayed in front of us in every mode of entertainment that we have no qualms discussing with complete strangers.
Now is the time to stop pretending that we are all estranged, even from ourselves. We should try to educate the masses on sex and sexuality and all of the good and bad that comes with it. We should let people understand human sexuality and the repercussions of unsafe sex, rape, and sexual dysfunction. We should help others understand all of the good things about sexuality and how sometimes a certain sight, sound, smell, or touch can greatly improve our relationships and our lives. Basically, we should stop deluding ourselves into thinking that human sexuality is wrong and finally be open about one of the most prevalent thoughts on everybody’s minds.
Since society is so keen on rules, we should make a new set of rules that we can actually follow. Mainly, we should acknowledge that there can be no rules when it comes to each person’s unique feelings about sex and sexuality.
So throw the rule book to the side, because when it comes to human sexuality, there are no rules!
